Someone asked ‘how did you find happiness?’ I answered ‘I stopped looking, then made one for myself’ You can do anything you want, anything, it is just your mind you need to convince. Enough of the happiness talk, that is not really why we are here. Let us talk about a few things that would keep you from being sulky when you are not in a ‘serious’ relationship;
Do not make your priority finding someone
Is it just me or when you look for something you never find it, but the moment you stop looking–it comes right for you. Not everyone thinks that happiness can solely be achieved by being in a relationship. It’s honestly about priorities, maybe they have a job and don’t feel like risking it in order to be with someone in another state whom they might or might not end up with forever. There is also a possibility that they’ll come to regret their decision every time their relationship faces turbulence.
There is always a risk when it comes to relationships and these people don’t really want to go through that risk. They define happiness with so many other things such as their career or their families etc.
I am glad I do not have to commit
To be honest, I suck when it comes to keeping up, I mean, I have a life (I guess) so you don’t expect me to always remember to text or call someone or falsify emotions just to please.
Okay so let’s get something cleared up, being ‘single’ doesn’t mean that I am completely single like all of the time. There are occasional dates and flings but they may or may not be with the same person i.e. they aren’t committed. Some people don’t see the point in one person every day, every second for the rest of their lives, yes! I said it.
Trust me, I know what bad relationships can do to a person
Soldier come, Soldier go do anything you want, but don’t fall in love o (in Simi’s voice). Why do fools fall in love? Story for another day.
You may or may not agree with this but a bad relationship tends to have certain effects on you, no matter how strong you are. Even the toughest of people can suffer from a heartbreak. These people have seen all of that happening every day and not once or twice but constantly. Most single people are single because of all the things which they see around them either in person or on one of the billions of reality programs which focus on the bad aspects of a relationship. With all of that happening around them, can you blame them?
Bottom line is that some people prefer the single life over anything else. Being in a relationship is a choice; they chose not to be in one.
Do not tell me I am missing opportunities because I am Female
Arghhh. I hate when someone says, ‘you better answer that man your time is ticking’. Hate is such a strong word, I know but if you don’t have any well thought and sensible suggestion as to why I should get into a relationship–I don’t want to hear Male chauvinistic ideas. Many Females have now come to understand that they are strong and do not need to compliment anybody. Everyone as an individual should put their self first in every decision you make in life. This is your only guarantee to happiness.