Sons and daughters of broken homes are those that were either born or nurtured in divorced homes, they are those under the tent of two broken hearts, those whose parents had outrightly divorced themselves, therefore leaving them under the canopy of confusion as to who has the mantle of command and unto who the command will be given.
Finding reasons of the twist and turns of some Nigerians , one is tempted, ever so often, to find their parents who gave their births, look at them straight on their face and poignantly ask the :”parent can’t you see the hand, the heavy hand of God in your Generation? Can’t you see nemesis in your sky for reason of some earlier acts.
As a guy who was nurtured in the street, strict street where guys live as if they wont leave, where guys get tipsy with sensimilla and marijuana just to beat up their fathers. My eyes had been filled with tragicomic scenes that i can opine that most portion of the blame should be given to their roots.
Much i am deeply worried over a brutal beating of a mother by her daughter recently, i had felt as if the duo were just brought together with the wind of coincidence. Leaving aside that they rightly live together in my area, their affray can best be described as the continuation of something worse than the third world war.
Knowing deep in her mind that she sucks her breasts, why should a girl raised up her hand not only to beat up her mother, but also locking her up like a criminal arrested by the police.
“Little wonder this happened”, I said to myself watching the scene from my window as the woman screams :” Oomo ale ni. She is a bastard, she took after her father who I had long divorced after conceiving her pregnancy”.
But is it not disheartening? Not only her pronouncement, the way she dressed, the looks of her skin like a mixture of coke and fanta that point to the annihilation of her responsible being. A mother or a slay mama! What has she got to mother the young girl, “when you don’t have, you can’t give “- the Arabic proverbs quickly backed my thoughts.
Now let’s consider this, unlike our fathers in primitive days, most spouses today don’t endure the challenges of their matrimonial homes that marriages don’t even last for three or four years before both spouses get their hearts broken. The crucial point is, when parents parts, how will kids get salvaged from childish acts likely to endanger their life?
Besides, I have reasonably reasoned at the reason why every parent will always avoid being a life barren, but few will settle for some moments to differentiate between the birth and after birth of a child. Everyone loves to harvest but no one dares to sow, giving birth is important but giving proper training is “importanter”.
Abdulwasiu Mujeeb writes from Lagos.