A Saudi Arabian therapist has released a video on the ‘correct way’ for Muslims to ‘discipline their wives’ – but advised doing so using a toothpick or handkerchief.
The video is believed to have been aired in the country in early February, 2016. The Kingdom’s government is said to have approved the video, and that is why it was given airtime on national television.
Mr Al-Saqaby urges men not to physically abuse their wives but pursue three courses of action should they need ‘discipline’ – first talk to them, then ‘forsake them in bed’ and finally beat them.
He said wives ‘undoubtedly’ caused problems because many ‘want to live a life of equality with their husbands’, which is a ‘very grave problem’.
In the video, he says: ‘I am aware that this issue is a thorny one which contains many hazards, but Allah willing we will cross this bridge safely.
‘I believe the problem arises when husbands do not understand how to deal with disobedience. Some women disobey their husbands and make mistakes with them, and their husbands think this is due to inadequate treatment [of disobedience].’
In an event where women disobey their husbands, Al-Saqaby teaches in the video that the men should follow the steps below in making sure that the women are corrected.
“The first step is to remind her of your rights and of her duties according to Allah. Then comes the second step – forsaking her in bed. The third step, beating, has to correspond with the necessary Islamic conditions” before taking action. The beating should not be performed with a rod, nor should it be a headband, or a sharp object. Instead, husbands should use a ‘tooth-cleaning twig or with a handkerchief’ to beat their wife. The wife will feel that she was wrong in the way she treated her husband,” says Al-Saqaby.
Ending his controversial teaching, Al-Saqaby says his teaching of how to beat wives is not exhaustive, and that sometimes, men can beat their wives without following his steps when the women go to the extreme by disobeying their husbands.
Video below:
https://youtu.be/cUOd2Co1M0U