Nollywood icon, Omotola Jalade Ekehinde has revealed that she has been tempted on more than one occasion to have an extra-marital affair but she has remained steadfast to her marital vows.
She also advised ladies on how to keep the flame in the romance alive even after the passion has cooled off.
In an interview with Vanguard, Mrs. Ekehinde said, “I have received lots of goodies from my male admirers, I do not give anything in return. I always tell them that I am married and would not compromise my martial vows. If after making that point clear, they still continue to shower me with gifts, maybe believing that something will break in the future, then I cannot help them.”
Asked if she had ever met men that she genuinely took a liking to, and was tempted to sacrifice her marital vows, she answered:
“Absolutely. I have been tempted many times to cheat on my husband by men I really liked. But when you think of what you stand to lose, the destruction of all you have labored to build, when you weigh all the options, you are left to conclude that it is not worth the trouble. I know some women will find this somewhat objectionable, but if they want to be truthful to themselves, they will agree with me that, as married women, we have all faced moments that I have just described.”
Do you feel emotionally detached as a result of many years of marriage or, put differently, has your passion for your husband cooled with time?, I asked. “Of course, it has”, she said matter-of-factly. “Which married woman who has been with her husband for years will, in her true state, tell you that the feeling has remained the same as it was the first time or the first year she met her husband? It is bound to cool off. What I recommend to women is what I call “temporary separation.” You will make yourself unavailable to your husband. Go somewhere – go on vacation with your friends, do something bold, lose weight, look different and, after weeks, come home, looking drop dead gorgeous, and I bet you, the fire of passion will be mightily rekindled and you will feel brand new again. I have applied this principle in my marriage and it has worked wonders.”