Dear Mimi,
You have to help me. I am facing a very serious dilemma. I went to an all girls’ Federal Government secondary school in Nigeria. I don’t want to say the name of the school. Anyway, in that school it was normal for girls to have girlfriends and kiss and date. People thought it was a thing that happened just because it was an all girls’ school. The idea was that it’s just a phase and we were dating girls because there were no boys around. Most of my school mates who had girlfriends later on graduated, went to university and married men. I had a senior girl who was my girlfriend in school and after school we continued our friendship but also went beyond kissing. I realized our own was not a phase that it was real feelings and attraction. At that time, I didn’t really know what homosexuality was, all I knew was that I had genuine love feelings. Anyway, my girlfriend went abroad and I stayed in Nigeria. I went to university and later on got married to a man. Last year, his step-sister returned to Nigeria and lo and behold… she is the same girlfriend I had in secondary school. All the feelings returned for me. I thought it was a phase but because she went out of Nigeria, she had been living life fully as a lesbian. Now we have been sleeping together and she wants me to follow her out of Nigeria to live together and possibly marry. I don’t have any children for my husband. He is a nice guy but I am gay. What should I do?
-Lesbian Love(sick)
Dear Lesbian Love(sick),
This is incredible!! So you couldn’t do any investigation before you married a man whose step-sister was once your girlfriend?? This is very irresponsible of you. I won’t blame you fully. I blame the society we live in that made you ignorant or blind to your sexuality. What you have done to your husband is cheat on him. You have committed adultery regardless of the gender of your cheating partner. My advice to you is to be true to yourself and stop cheating on your husband. If you want to live as a lesbian then do so but do it without hurting innocent and unsuspecting parties. The huge scandal here is not that you are gay, but that your partner is related to your husband. Please be honest in your dealings and do the mature thing, which is to stop cheating! I wish you maturity.
Love,
Mimi
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