A married man has spoken in detail about his sugar daddy relationships with women he meets online and how he became a scout recruiting the most talented sex workers.
The Australian man, who uses the name Bernard, decided to sign up to dedicated sugar daddies and sugar babies sites after feeling disconnected from his wife.
Over the past two years Bernard has lavished more than $65,000 on “girlfriend experiences” with his online mistresses, who his wife knows nothing about.
He said: “I’ve been married for over 25 years. My wife knows nothing about it, it was just a convenient situation for me.
“I say to the women; I don’t want just sex, I don’t want to meet for an hour and just have sex, that’s not what I’m into.
“You have a nice dinner, you chat, they come back to my place, they very quickly treat you as if they’re your girlfriend.”
“It’s like a normal date, yes you get intimate, and then you leave an envelope full of cash in it.”
Bernard described how he felt like a “kid in a lolly shop” when he first signed up to the sugar daddy site and was seeing different women every night.
He soon began making contacts in the industry and he eventually became a “scout” for Sydney-based escort agency, Honeychile Ryder.
He said: “You have great sex with these women. It’s amazing, quite frankly. And it’s nice to be with a younger woman sometimes.
“I’ve been with some as young as 18. I’m in my mid-50’s, and that’s a pretty unusual experience. The fact they actually claim to like older men and want to see you again, it’s great.”
Bernard said despite not wanting to leave his wife after 25 years of marriage, their relationship had deteriorated to a point where he felt the need to look for an emotional connection elsewhere.
Bernard explained: “I still have sex with my wife, but when you’ve been married that long, a lot of women, when they have kids they turn off the tap, it’s never as good as it used to be, it’s not as often as it used to be.”
“You feel guilty about it, I don’t really want my marriage to get ruined, but when you get older you get that, ‘you only live once’ attitude.
“I hope they never find out. As long as all the bills are paid and my wife sticks her card in the ATM and the money comes out, she’s happy. She doesn’t check my bank account or anything like that.”
After two years of trysts with sugar babies Bernard felt compelled to do something for the girls whose company he enjoyed.
Concerned for their safety, he began hooking his girlfriends up with “agent” Mila Jovi from Honeychile Ryder.
He said: “I get nothing out of it, what concerns me about a lot of these girls is they are quite young, they’re messing with men they know nothing about, whereas doing it through Mila, she’s done the checks for the girls.”
He said he normally approaches the women after their third encounter, when they have “built some trust.”
Mila said when it comes to choosing the right girl, it was about being well polished, or showing potential for a “five-star girl.”
She said: “It’s very hard sometimes, it’s hard to put class into a woman if she doesn’t have it.”
“Bernard is very good. The life of an escort is very good, there’s great money to be made.”
She says she teaches the girls how to groom, what to wear, how to do their hair, what lingerie to wear, how to act and what to talk about.
“I can tell in the first five minutes if a woman is up for the job.”
Figures from SeekingArrangement.com, the world’s largest sugar daddy dating site, claimed 100,000 Australian students alone have signed up to find a sugar daddy.
Research found 35 per cent of university aged sign-ups came from upper-middle and high-income families.