On the Stella Damasus radio talk show, ‘Undiluted with Stella Damasus’ on January 19, the theme discussed was ‘should a married man/woman allow their spouses have a best friend of the opposite sex’
One of Stella’s Damasus guests on the show was Daniel Ademinokan.
Daniel Ademinokan explained, “Before I got married, I had many female friends. One of them I fell in love with because we were just so fond of ourselves, but she didn’t feel the same way for me.
“From that experience, I was smart enough to know that it may not be safe and sane to discuss issues that will stir up emotions. Usually, best friends don’t set boundaries. I personally as a guy would not advice to have a best friend that is female or vice versa.
“Stay safe, the Bible says, ‘flee from all appearances of evil’. Is it possible that a man can be married and his wife is not his best friend?
“If your wife is not your best friend as a man, you have a problem. Try the best you can to make your wife your best friend. If you feel your wife doesn’t understand you, look for a guy. Not a female because emotions may stir up.
“I’m not saying you can’t have a female friend but there should be boundaries. Your character is like smoke; somehow, it will find its way out. When there are issues, don’t wait for someone else to console your spouse. I will not condone my wife having a male best friend and I myself will NOT have a female best friend.”