Don’t get it twisted, men make grievous mistakes as well but we will discuss the ladies first and the gents in another edition.
We all have our own unique challenges related to the way we see and interact with the world around us. The good news is that a lot of these challenges could be avoided if more people became conscious of the huge differences in how men and women reason. Let us discuss these mistakes with a few points.
Air out your opinion
Talk about whatever’s on your mind, even if it’s just that you are angry he left the groundnut bottle open. Putting it off will only force you to bottle up emotions and that could lead to passive aggressive actions later on. Don’t be reluctant to say what you want exactly how you mean it.
Over-analyzing
There is analysis and then there is over-analysis. Wondering why the fiance didn’t call at all during his work trip, could be a legitimate case for analysis. Wondering why he only called twice and not three times one night after a long day at work, now this is a pure example of over-analysis. Ladies, to be honest, stop sniffing where there is nothing. The reason he did not pick that call might just be because he is in the shower or he could be praying, who knows. Try to keep an open mind.
Stop getting worked up if he looks or talks to another woman
Stop picking offence. It’s a man’s nature to look, getting on his case shows you’re insecure, which is a huge turn-off. If you find yourself getting jealous whenever a woman is within his vicinity, you need to do an honest check in with yourself. At the root of it, there is either trust missing from the relationship or you need to build up your self esteem. Rather, look with him and talk to or about her with him. Don’t lie, you look at fine looking men too!
Respect his space and get a life
If he’s in a bad mood or doesn’t feel like talking, leave him alone and let it be. Most guys don’t like to talk about their issues the way women do. Instead, they prefer to pull back and wallow in their thoughts. Don’t take this personal. Talking to him at this point might just sound like nagging to him. That is the more reason why you should never throw away the relationship you have with your friends, just in case he needs his space you can run to them.
Take care of that body
Let us be truthful, men get attracted to women first because of the body before anything. Men are driven by what they see just like women are driven by what they hear.
It really is a shame to see how many women think it’s okay to stop working out and shaving their legs as soon as they are in a relationship. If anything, you should feel more motivated to make the effort once things are more settled to keep the attraction alive and sexual energy buzzing.
Do not try to change him, I repeat do not try to change him
Appreciate him. When you get into a relationship, you need to take that person for exactly who he is, not who you want him to be. He is who he is, take it or leave it. When it comes to minor things, like the fact that he wears sneakers on a suit, be gentle and encouraging. Don’t criticize and make him feel stupid. Say something that makes him feel good and inspires him to make that change on his own, for instance, “You look really nice in that outfit but it would be dapper with those loafers instead.” That way you modify him not change.
So use this simple techniques to keep your relationship going.