The ‘C’ word often invokes fright among men to such an extent that they might go to the farthest available nook of the earth when they hear this word from their women. What is it about commitment that men can’t stand? They seem happy when they ‘finally’ find a woman of their choice, they seem happy while dating her and they’re utterly happy with all the physical occurrences that come along with dating. Then why the problem to commit and stick to one woman. We’ve dug up and discovered, which didn’t take much time. It’s quite obvious if you know where to look. But we’ve spared you the trouble, so now you just have to read below the reasons of why men are afraid of commitment.
1. Freedom alert
The very first thing important to men – after food, TV, sports, their body…and well, other things – is freedom. They want to do things whenever they want to, without any interference. If they want to watch TV at 2 am, so that shall be it. If they want to go out for a road trip with their friends, they will – even in the middle of the night. But some men think, that women and commitment together are the end to their freedom. They can’t do what they want, when they want as they will have an external ‘baggage’ with them.
2. Space jam
Men, just like women, also do need a lot of space; be it home, in their bedroom, bathroom or in their office. They just don’t admit it. However, when it comes to commitment, men are quick to respond that they will have space constraints when a woman invades their territory. She will use all pastels to color his once dull house, have all kinds of flowery stuff around and his bathroom will be packed with feminine products.
3. Red alert: No variety
That is one big red alert for men. Some men view women as just a means to an end. Now, commitment clearly spells out a strict no-no for all their sexual explorations. Hence, the worry.
4. Responsibility woes
Hmm, everyone confronts these at some point in their lives. Although some men have extra difficulty in adhering to responsibilities when it comes to marriage or women. They are already stressed out with their family, work and other issues, so now the responsibility that marriage entails is a big task ahead of them.
5. Emotional melodrama
We, women are emotional and we are not afraid to show that. We have pre-defined set of emotions related to marriage and it is the next best thing after falling in love. Some men have a problem with that. They find women too emotional at times and this bothers them. Committing to one woman would mean that they have to tolerate all the emotions that accompany them and men tend to be bad with emotions.
6. Intimacy issues
Some men are plain scared of having an intimate relationship. This might be due to the fact that they have gone through a bad childhood or have had some terrible emotional experiences with their family. This may lead to them developing a kind of fear in forming an intimate alliance with someone else.
7. Pressure overload
One reason why men are afraid to commit would also be that it is us who drive them to this consequence. How? That’s because sometimes we tend to go overboard with pressurizing men to commit. Instead of getting the desired outcome from men – that is, to commit – we drive them away from us. It is this pressure that irks them.
8. Compromising concerns
Marriage brings along responsibility as well as its share of compromises, and both men and women have to survive through it. This means there should be sharing, caring, and an equal amount of basically everything. But men are a bit uncomfortable with compromising their freedom, time, TV time and so on.
9. ‘Growing up’ dilemma
Some men have issues growing up too. By this we mean, that they want to remain boys forever. They want to have their share of fun, without any responsibility or tension. But commitment usually means they are all ‘grown up’ and have to take important decisions about life and so on. They don’t take this fact quite well and hence they are afraid to commit.