Couples are likely to resort to divorce when they can’t seem to get over an incident of cheating. But there are some reasons when getting a divorce is not the only solution to infidelity. Bitterness, stress, anxiety and frustration are likely to be the common outcomes of a divorce, so give it a second thought. Read on to know about what these reasons are.
1. When your partner has cheated under the influence of alcohol
Divorce may not necessarily be the answer to infidelity if your husband cheated on you under the influence of alcohol. This is not to say that just because your husband was drunk, he has a reason to be excused for having cheated. It just means that you should consider his side of the story before going for a divorce straight away. Chances are that he may not be aware of what he did or may not even remember his actions.
2. When your partner is truly repentant
Infidelity can destroy any marriage and couples should be prepared to deal with cheating in any form. Couples should also be open to the fact that they can make mistakes in their relationship and they should be forgiving of each other, depending on the scale of the mistake. If your husband has apologized to you a million times and seems truly repentant of his sinful actions, give your divorce a thought. Being forgiving once may save you from a lifetime of loneliness.
3. When you have no proof or evidence
It is natural to act alarmed and cautious on sensing that your partner could be cheating on you. But if you don’t have enough proof or evidence of his infidelity, think before you go for a divorce. If you put allegations of infidelity on your husband without any evidence, he could taunt you for making false claims.
4. When you are going to be the loser after divorce
If you don’t earn enough to sustain yourself and your child and you depend on your husband for many other things, then divorce may not be the answer to your husband’s infidelity. If he does not have the alimony to support you and your children, then your child’s future is at stake. This does not mean that you succumb to your husband’s fancies and let him have his way. It only means that you should first take time to figure out your own situation and think of a divorce later when you are better equipped financially and emotionally.
5. When you have cheated on your partner in the past
Have you cheated on your husband before and been forgiven by him before he cheated on you? If the answer is yes, divorce may not be the right answer for your husband’s infidelity. You cannot have the upper hand on your husband if you have been at fault yourself. You may need to talk about your husband’s infidelity to him and ask him whether he did so out of revenge or was it impulsive.
6. When you and your husband have lost interest in each other
Your divorce should be ideally based on very solid ground, not something flippant as losing interest in each other. If you and your husband are simply bored in your relationship and are not attracted to each other anymore, there are better ways of addressing the situation than going through a divorce and tearing apart the family.