Marriage is a complicated phenomenon which is interesting at the same time. You must know that honesty and trust are the two pillars that hold this institution together. However, if you somehow get the feel that your husband is not being honest with you, even if that is to protect you from worrying unnecessarily, there are a certain things you can do about it. Read on to find out how to get your husband to be honest to you.
1. Build the Trust.
If your husband trusts you with all his life, he will forever be honest with you. He will share everything with you. So if you want him to be honest, work on building the trust between you and him. Show that you trust him, be patient, and give him time. Trust is never built in a day. Just be the best you can be, and things will work out.
2. Listen, don’t judge.
Whenever he tells you anything, just be there and listen. Do not give him judgmental looks, and do not make comments about what he did and how he did. Just listen to what he says. This way, he will know that come what may, he can always be honest with you and you will listen. In turn, he will start reciprocating the same behavior. So it is a win-win situation
3. Don’t tell what should have been done
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When he is telling you things, do not keep interrupting him with what he should have done and how someone else should not have behaved. If he did not ask for a solution, why are you giving them to him? Even if your intentions are correct, if you try imposing “should” all over him, he would eventually start shirking from sharing. That is not what you want now, is it?
4. Passive Aggressive.
This always works. If none of the above tips work, it is time to be your manipulative best. You have to act cold if you want to extract the truth out of him. Do not be angry or harsh. Be subtle, sarcastic and say things like, “How I wished I knew that. Oh well! Nothing I can do about it!”
5. Tears-the old reliable.
Finally, if everything else fails, you have the most reliable weapon of them all -Crying. Do not sob hysterically though! Just bring tears to your eyes, and be emotional yet strong. “Why are you making me go through all this pain, I thought you loved me!” Bam! Works, Always! In less frequent rare doses though.