Dear Mimi,
I am a 23 year old man living outside Nigeria. Two days ago I read on the news of a mother and son who have been arrested for being n a romantic relationship and are facing jail time. I am scared because this is my story. My mother had me young when she was 15 years old. To avoid disgrace, her parents sent me to live with a distant aunt outside Nigeria. I knew of my mother but was not allowed to speak to her or see her. When I turned 20 years old and started university, I reached out to my mother on Facebook. She is now 35 years old and so beautiful. We talked everyday on the phone for a year before she came to visit me. Once we saw each other, we hugged and next thing were kissing on the mouth. Needless to say, we have been dating for two years now. My dilemma is that I want to marry her but I know society frowns on it. What should I do?
-In Love with my mummy
Dear In Love with my mummy,
This is a travesty!!! You started your letter off with the knowledge that a mother-son couple are facing jail time for incest yet you go on to say you want to marry your own mother???? Let me educate you on what incest is.
Incest is the crime of sexual relations or marriage taking place between a male and female who are so closely linked by blood that such activity is prohibited by law.
Incest is a statutory crime, often classified as a felony. The prohibition of incest is also based upon genetic considerations, since when excessive inbreeding takes place, undesirable recessive genes become expressed and genetic defects and disease are more readily perpetuated. In addition, the incest taboo is universal in human culture.
THE INCEST TABOO IS UNIVERSAL IN HUMAN CULTURE. IN ALL SOCIETIES, IN ALL CULTURES.
Your relationship with your mother is a crime and a taboo and a danger to any children that may be born of this union as they may be born with several sever birth defects. Break up with your mother and get yourself a non-relative.
I wish you wisdom.
Love,
Mimi
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