Intense love relationships can give you hope for a bright future. Women may feel excited about commitment and marriage but men may not feel the same way. There are a lot of things that make men to feel a little scared of commitment. If you love a guy dearly and think that he loves you like no one else then check out the following tips. These ideas might help you to get your boyfriend to marry you.
1. Mention the recent marriages you had attended when he is in a good mood
Talk about the recent marriages that have taken place in your family or friend circle. Mention the names of your close friends and family members who got married recently after their brief courtship. Make sure that you talk generally about these marriages. Don’t give him expressions that could indicate your expectations. While talking about these marriages, notice the body language of your boyfriend. See if he gives you any positive sign that indicates his interest in getting married to you soon.
2. Stay mysterious and surprise him often
Don’t stop looking great just because you have been with this guy for several years now. Look your best especially when he is around. Don’t run your errands in your track suit. This is one of the worst mistakes women make. Your man may never ask you to look pretty all the time but actually, he wants the same. This doesn’t mean that you have to wear makeup everyday. Just wear nice and neat clothes every single day. Surprise him with a new haircut, by decorating your bedroom with dim lights and scented candles and by arranging a spa for him in the bathroom. Ask him to take a shower once he comes back from work and afterwards, give him a surprise body massage. All these things will help him understand that you can be a fun and great life partner.
3. Make a presentation of all your precious moments
You can use PowerPoint or MovieMaker to create an adorable presentation. Collect all your pictures and make a presentation using them. For instance you can pick the pictures from your first date with him.
4. Cook for him
This is one of the most important things a woman can do for her man. Good food will not just make a man happy but it can make him love you even more. Try and read some cookery books online. Cook different cuisines and be a good cook. Men like women who are good at cooking. Men think that such women can be good and caring mothers.
5. Don’t give him a deadline but set one for yourself
Instead of giving him a deadline for marriage, set a deadline for yourself and prove that you can be a great mother and life partner. A lot of women might think that they don’t need to prove anything to their men but this is an important step. This idea will not just help you to find out the new and creative things you can do but it will help you to groom yourself. You can utilize your time to learn better cooking and to become a better homemaker for him. You would definitely want to do these things if you love him.
6. Indicate indirectly that you would wait only till a certain age to get married
If you are 25 years old right now and you plan to get married by the time you turn 28 then tell this to him in an indirect way. Don’t say, “We have to be married before I turn 29” or something similar. This type of a statement will make your boyfriend bolt like a deer who has seen a lion in front of it. So, tell him, “We can have our own home within two years and afterwards we can plan a family. I would be ready to have kids once I turn 30. So, a two year gap between the marriage and a baby is just fine for me.”
7. Be a patient listener for him and don’t advise or criticize him for what he shares with you
Ensure that you make it easy for him to confide in you. At the end of a tiring day, ask him how his day was and let him speak as much as he wants to. If he had a bad day at work then just say, “So, you had a rough day. I think a cup of coffee will be good for you right now. Do you think so as well?” It is important to make him open up about his bad past experiences. So, whenever he tells you that he doesn’t like to meet your friends because he thinks he doesn’t look good enough, just tell him that he is the most handsome man of the world for you and that you don’t care about anything but him. Tell him that you don’t love him for the way he looks but for the kind of love he gives you. Being sweet and polite at such crucial times will encourage him to open up about his emotions and feelings. Make sure that you don’t criticize or advise him in such situations. Don’t give him an advice unless he asks for it directly.
8. Encourage him to spend time with his friends on weekends
This idea will make him feel that you would give him space after marriage. Ask him to go on road trips with his friends. Tell him some adventurous activities he can do with his friends.