Are you in a situation where you desperately want to ask a guy out, but there is something that is holding you back? If you can relate your current situation to any of the ones listed below, you can be sure that you don’t want to ask him out.
1. When he has been in a relationship with your best friend or sister
You should never ask a guy out when he has been in a relationship with your best friend or your sister. If you do, be prepared to lose your precious bond of friendship or sisterhood because it will create a very awkward situation. Whether it is your best friend or sister, she will definitely not like it when you go out with a guy she no longer likes.
2. When he has a history of abusive relationships
You should avoid asking out a guy who has a history of abusive relationship. No matter how nicely he behaves with you at first, he could turn into an abusive boyfriend once you both get into a relationship. If you are sure about his abusive past, it is not worth taking the risk of asking him out and putting yourself in a turbulent relationship.
3. When he is known as a womanizer
Men who have been womanizers for a long time find it very difficult to let go of their bad habits. If you are finding yourself attracted to such a guy, stop yourself from asking him out because you are simply falling for his charms. It is likely that he will continue his womanizing habits even after he is in a relationship with you.
4. When you meet him in a nightclub after a few drinks
Asking a guy out after having a few drinks in a nightclub or a bar is definitely not a good idea. Your decision will be affected by the tipsy effects of alcohol and your judgment about a guy’s personality will be compromised. If you think that you like a guy, just find out his name so you can look him up on the internet to get a better idea of his personality when the effects of alcohol wear off.
5. When he is just coming out of a relationship
You will be putting yourself through pain if you decide to ask a guy out who has just come out of a relationship. It is likely that he will get into a relationship with you just to soothe his heartbreak or to get back at his ex-girlfriend. As soon as the pain of his previous relationship wears off, he may decide to call it quits in your relationship.
6. When all your friends warn you against him
If there is a situation where all your friends warn you against asking out a guy on whom you have a crush, you should take their opinion seriously. Your real friends always want the best for you and if they are all asking you to stay away from a guy, there may be a very good reason for it.
7. When he is your ex-boyfriend
Suppose you meet your ex-boyfriend at the mall six months after you broke up, and you start thinking that he is a completely changed person. You start developing feelings for him again and the attraction begins to overpower your logic. You should never ask him out because you broke up with him for a reason and getting back together with him will only lead to more pain and more heartbreak.