Parenting can be a nightmarish thing to do at times. No matter what style of parenting you try and follow, there will be always times when your kid hates you and thinks you are the worst parents in town. Added to it are the things you can never tell your kid. There are things you can tell them in anger that can damage them for life. You can also say wrong things at time thinking you are doing it for their good. Even when you think you are close to your kids and that they are mature to take things in their stride, there are certain things that you should never tell your kids. Here are a few things that any parents should desist from telling their kids.
1. Never say ugly and dirty things about your partner to your kid
A lot of parents force their kids to take sides in the fight between the husband and the wife. This behavior is not relegated to divorced or separated parents but parents who live together too. Even if you are fighting with your husband, make sure you never say anything ugly or bad about them and never force your kid to take sides. You do not want to be responsible for your kid hating you or your partner.
2. Never put them down in front of others
Never say things like you are good for nothing or you will never amount to anything. Also do not insult your kid in front of others. You may be damaging your kids self esteem for good. Not only in front of other people, but do not keep saying this to them even otherwise. You should believe in positive enforcement and encourage your kids to believe in their self worth.
3. Do not call them dumb or stupid
Even if your kid is slow to pick up certain things do not call them stupid or dumb. Always look for other things your kid is good at and never force anything your kid cannot handle.
4. Never discuss your sex life with your kids
Not only it is embarrassing for kids to hear about their parents’ kid’s life, they really do not want to know about your private lives. You also risk the chances of them looking down on you or judging you by your revelations. Discussions about your sex life should definitely be avoided in front of your kids.
5. Never compare your kid with other kids or their siblings
Every parent should understand that their kid is different. Just because the kids peers or siblings do well in something does not mean that this kid too should do the same thing. Never say things like, you should do well like your brothers or sisters or that the kid should get good grades like his or her friend.
6. Never call the kid ugly or fat
If a parent does not love the kid, no one else will. If your kid is fat, then the problem could as well lie with you. Talk to your kid about weight loss and do not curse the kid for eating. Find and try to weed out the problem. Most eating disorders start with emotional turmoil and you could be the catalyst.